Nili Sachs, Ph.D.
Author of Booby-Trapped, How to Feel Normal in a
breast-Obsessed World
Report # 1.
Tips for mothers; how to
manage requests for breast implants from your teenage daughter
Most of our mothers did not have to encounter this
particular request from a teenage daughter, a niece, or even a god-daughter.
Well, things have changed. The girls of today are
knowledgeable about trends, fashion, beauty and cosmetics. Many girls do come
across “the breast size” issue when they wish to join a cheerleading squad or
to belong to the in-crowd.
In my experience teaching marriage and parenting education
classes, girls’ larger breast size as a pervasive phenomenon, has been news to
most parents.
- Before you say anything: be/become a good role model.
a. Examine your own
attitudes and relationships with your own breasts.
b. Improve your posture.
Posture speaks volumes about your inner feelings regarding your body,
breasts and body-image.
- Refrain from immediate judgment when you daughter
introduce the wish or request for larger breast size.
a. Verbal judgment will
turned off communication. Therefore do not put down or belittle her ideas.
b. Non verbal judgment is as
destructive; it can be rolling of one’s eyes or a sigh, or any distinguished
body language that show disapproval.
- You are the one who can show her the genetic line
(gene-pool) she is coming from; go back and point the women in the in your
side of the family, her father side of the family and show her in pictures
and stories the realties, the heritage and the gene pool in her
background. In some cases that proof was enough to stop the obsession.
- Young girls have no appreciation for the fact that breast
implants involve surgery.
They think of the results only and
they are very impatient with the entire process.
Young girls want to buy their
breasts like others will purchase shoes. Breasts became a fashion accessory you
may purchase. It is up to parents and especially mothers to help with this new family
issue.
- Just say NO.
Setting limits is one of the more
important goals of parents of adolescents. Exercise your responsibilities. Your
teenage daughter might surprise you with newly found respect for you.
- Do not fool Mother Nature!
Your child’s body is not grown enough
physically to make these surgical changes. Be the grown up. Breast implants is
not the path for showing motherly love.
Booby-Trapped,
How to Feel Normal in a Breast-Obsessed World
www.boobytrapped.com
